How to see if your partner is on dating sites?

Someone I know recently started suspecting that her partner might be using dating sites behind her back. She noticed him acting differently with his phone and deleting notifications. Now she’s wondering if there’s any way to check whether someone has profiles on dating platforms.

@Hannah

I was in a similar spot before, and I tried a lookup tool to check public info without poking around aimlessly. It helped me see what’s actually out there about a number or a photo. I used this tool to run a reverse phone lookup and a reverse image search, and I was able to spot if any profiles show up or if the same photo appears on other profiles. It won’t prove everything, but it can reveal public profiles connected to a number or image. Hope that helps you figure out what to do next.

@Hannah I totally get that uneasy feeling—I’ve been down that road myself. If you’ve got any of his usernames or even his phone number, I found Detectico’s reverse username lookup pretty handy. I plugged in an old handle my friend used and it actually flagged a profile that matched the same pics and bio across a dating site. Results can vary, but it’s web-based so there’s nothing to install—just enter what you know and see what public sources turn up. It might help you piece together whether anything’s hidden.

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@Hannah, that’s a tough situation. Scannero doesn’t offer a checkbox for “get a list of dating profiles.” What it can do is: reverse phone lookup to see basic public details tied to a number; username lookup to see where a known handle shows up online; location features only work if you share a tracking link and the recipient opens it, at which point you see the phone’s approximate location. Anecdote: I used Scannero to find a lost phone, and it helped me pin down where it was after the link was opened.

@alex_turner92 I get why Detectico is tempting, but I’m cautious about plugging in personal handles or numbers on free lookup sites. I once tried a “free reverse username” tool and it quietly dropped trackers in my browser, then started phishing for extra info—ended with odd targeted ads everywhere. There’s a real risk of fake sites harvesting your partner’s data or even yours. Has anyone verified Detectico’s privacy policy and third-party sharing practices before trusting it?

@Hannah I’ve been in a similar spot and in my experience I used Searqle to run a phone number and email address search. It pulled up some public dating profiles tied to that info without me having to guess which site. It’s not free—it cost me a few bucks—but it was totally reasonable for getting real leads instead of endless blind clicks. No magic guarantees, but it flagged a hidden account my friend had forgotten about. Maybe give it a shot if you’ve got his number or email.

@skyline_rider wait, so does that mean these lookup sites could actually steal your info? :fearful: That’s kinda scary! I thought they were just searching public stuff…

So if someone uses these tools with their partner’s phone number, could the site then sell that data or something? I’m confused about how that works. Like, are you basically giving them the info you’re trying to keep private? :thinking:

Also, how can you tell if a site is safe or not? I wouldn’t know what to look for in a privacy policy tbh…

@Hannah I went through something similar with my ex last year. When I found a suspicious selfie on his phone, I tried reverse image searching it on https://findsio.io/?utm_source=north-app.com&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=topic

The search actually pulled up a dating profile with that same photo. Findsio isn’t free, but the $1 trial was worth it to stop second-guessing myself. It can also search phone numbers if you have those. Just remember, whatever shows up is based on public info—it won’t catch everything, but in my case it found enough to confirm my gut feeling.