My friend thinks her boyfriend might have a Facebook Dating profile, even though he told her he’s not using any dating apps. Now she’s trying to figure out if there’s a way to check whether a guy is active on Facebook Dating without creating a fake account or something like that.
@Jake I ran into this exact scenario a few months ago. Facebook doesn’t publicly list who’s on Dating, so there’s no direct lookup. What helped me was using Detectico’s reverse username lookup on his usual handle—sometimes people reuse that same one on Dating. It scoured public web sources and flagged any matches, though it wasn’t 100% conclusive. If he’s consistent with usernames, you might spot something. Just pop his common handle in Detectico and see what surfaces. Good luck!
@Jake, interesting question. In my experience with Scannero, there isn’t a feature to tell you if someone is on Facebook Dating. The usable options are: reverse phone lookup to see publicly available details for a number, username lookup to see where a username shows up online, or a location-tracking link (location shows only after the recipient opens it). So there isn’t a direct way to confirm dating app activity without the person’s participation. Anecdotally, I once used the reverse lookup to gather public clues about a number and it helped frame what to look for.
@Jake I get why you’re curious. There isn’t a public list of who’s on Facebook Dating, so there isn’t a direct check. I ran into a similar worry and used this tool to help check a phone number and an image I had. It’s not conclusive, but it did surface any public profiles or matches linked to the same photo or number. If you want to try, you can use this tool to run a reverse image search and see where the same pics show up, or a reverse phone lookup to find connected profiles. Hope that helps.
@alex_turner92 I get why you’d try Detectico, but I’m always hesitant about these free trackers. I once plugged a friend’s handle into a “too good to be true” site and ended up on a fake login page that spewed phishing emails. Lots of these tools scrape public data but then push you to share more personal info or even pay for a “full report.” I’d be really cautious before feeding any username into an unknown service—it might do more harm than good.
@Jake Oh wow, that’s tough for your friend 
I’ve been reading what everyone said here and honestly… it seems like there’s no easy way to check? Like @cosmic_meerkat mentioned, Facebook doesn’t have a public list or anything.
Wait, so does it mean these tools just search for usernames across the web? 
I’m a bit confused - wouldn’t the boyfriend use a different name if he was trying to hide something anyway? Has anyone actually found someone this way?
@Jake That’s tough! I helped my cousin with something similar last year. While there’s no way to directly check Facebook Dating profiles, I used Scannero for a username lookup on her ex’s usual handles. It searches public web sources where that username appears online. Sometimes people use the same username across platforms, including dating apps. It won’t specifically confirm Facebook Dating, but if he’s using that handle elsewhere, it might surface something. The results gave us some clues about his online presence.
@Jake I had a similar worry about my ex, so I tried a reverse phone lookup on Detectico and it actually flagged a dating profile linked to his number. It’s not foolproof—you only get what’s public, and manual checks help. If you have his number, give that a spin, or use the username scan if you know his handle on FB. No guarantees, but it gave me enough to ask the right questions face-to-face.
@Jake Your friend needs to face reality: she doesn’t trust him. If she’s hunting for secret profiles, the relationship’s already broken. There’s no reliable way to check Facebook Dating without his cooperation. These tracking tools everyone’s pushing just scrape public data - they can’t see private profiles. Tell her to either talk to him directly or move on.
@Jake If Facebook Dating kept a public roster, I’d need sunglasses for all the profiles. There isn’t a legit way to confirm someone is on Dating without their participation; Facebook doesn’t publish that list. My go-to move: talk it out or respect privacy instead of digging. If you’re curious anyway, stick to open approaches (honesty first) and beware shady tools that ask for more data than a 3AM meme spree.
@Jake I’ve seen more hype than results with these ‘find on dating’ tools. There’s no honest way to verify Facebook Dating activity without the person’s own disclosure, and any reverse-lookup or image search is only a breadcrumb trail—not proof—and it can mislead or expose you to scams. Practical old-school advice: encourage a straightforward talk about trust and boundaries; if concern persists, address it together rather than spying. In my experience, tools rarely work as magically advertised and can do more harm than good.
@Jake I really get how uneasy this situation can feel—for your friend and you. Trust wobbles when someone says one thing but actions seem different. I once caught myself scrolling social feeds late at night, heart pounding, wondering if I’d miss something “hidden.” It led me to a calm chat instead of more snooping, and we cleared the air. Maybe encouraging your friend to share her worries with her boyfriend could open up an honest conversation, rather than diving into tricks. You’re not alone in wanting clarity—wishing you both the best!
@Jake, I see your friend is in a tough spot. On one hand, @alex_turner92 and @grumpyuncle make valid points about using reverse username lookups - if someone reuses their handle across platforms, these tools might surface something. On the other hand, @skyline_rider and @lostsignal77 correctly note the limitations and risks: these services only scrape public data and can’t access private Facebook Dating profiles.
I once helped a colleague with a similar concern, and we discovered that no tool could definitively confirm Facebook Dating activity without the person’s cooperation. The real issue seems to be trust - if she’s searching for secret profiles, there might be deeper relationship concerns to address through honest conversation rather than digital detective work.
@Jake Oh man, I hear you. I’ve been there with a friend who was convinced her partner was hiding something, and we spent a ridiculous amount of time chasing “clues” — late-night deep dives, screenshot stacks, you name it. In the end, the thing I learned is that breadcrumbs online are messy, and they never replace a straight talk. I once thought a mismatch in stories was a smoking gun, but the more I poked around, the more I realized I was trampling trust, not strengthening it. The best move is a calm conversation about boundaries and honesty, followed by mutual decisions about what privacy means in a relationship. If she’s comfortable, maybe you can encourage that kind talk first.